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Tuesday, August 20, 2019

Time Moves Ever Onward

It's been more than 2 years since writing, and some things have happened.


  1. I got married to the woman I love on the 29th of April, 2017
  2. We travelled to the USA (San Francisco and New York) for our honeymoon
  3. I changed roles in my company to become a Business Analyst mid-2017
  4. That didn't work for me, so managed to move into a Help Desk Senior role end-of 2017
  5. I found out my wife was pregnant on the 14th of June, 2018
  6. Our little (actually massive) son was born on the 23rd of April, 2019
  7. I became the Team Leader of that Help Desk team 4th of June, 2019
Some pretty big changes, and before writing this post, I looked back on my previous posts to reflect. Here are some thoughts.

  1. In this post, I talked about my wife (then girlfriend) not wanting to live with my nan, and the strain that caused. After all that has happened, and the time that has passed, our relationship has made it through this. Takeaways are, I know how difficult it can be to live with my nan, and my wife can talk to me about that. But she also knows how important keeping her with us is to me. We make it work.
  2. In this post, I said:
    "Right now, the thing that hits me the most is that today, the 20th of May, is the last 20th of May my mum will experience. That last Christmas will be her last Christmas, that her birthday was her last birthday. It's possible that she'll have more, but it's unlikely. It's unlikely she'll meet her grandkids. It's unlikely she'll see me get married again."
    I don't think I ever reflected on this, but those worries came true. My mum didn't see another 20th of May, another Christmas, another birthday, her grandchild, or see me get married again
  3. It's interesting that I mention anxiety in that same post about my mum. Anxiety has become something I'm more aware of in my life. It was the bane of my career as a Business Analyst, but I've taken steps to cope with my anxiety a bit better in my current role, even though it has similar stressors. I do find the anxiety of being a father quite difficult, though...
  4. Because of my experience with my own father being shit, and my relationship with my mum being so great (me being so lucky to have her), I'm aware of what a good/bad relationship can do. I'm aware of how depression in fathers can be an indicator/predictor of depression in their children. I'm aware of my own poor relationship with food and how that can be picked up by my son. I want to give him the best chances, but I'm not 100% okay with myself
I started out by googling "blog" with the intention of writing about my experience learning to code, which took me to blogger, which showed me my old blog, which I started reading, and here I am.

Oh yeah, so I've learned a little bit about Javascript, node.js, and React, but I'm think I want to switch tracks and look at machine learning and more specifically, artificial neural networks.